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Why You Need To Unlearn and Relearn
I used to shy away from good communication.
Iād expect listeners to see past my broken sentences, decorating them with head bobs and hand movements as if to say āyou know what I mean, right?ā
They did, or at least Iād like to think they did.
But I made an honest effort at getting better, yet āhonestā was something my teachers were not.
You see, when I attempted to write an academic transcript, my style was branded ātoo journalisticā.
In my other prose, I was supposedly too ābluntā and āsimplisticā.
For the most part, Iād only ever written because I had to, not because I wanted to. So I conformed to what was expected of me.
Iād keep the thesaurus nearby to make me appear more intelligible, and I adopted a more robotic rhythm in my academic work. Thatās what they wanted, right?
What my teachers hadnāt told me was that there was never truly a wrong way to write something, just a better one.
Enter, the real world.
I stumbled into a life of writing. I had to create copy, write articles, sell products, even speak to people!
Initially, I tried to apply what Iād been taught. Instead, I ended up learning something completely different.
Now, I write to grab attention. I write to be read. I write to hold your hand through my story and I write to shock, I write to inform. I write to make you think and I write to make you question. I write to learn and do it all with empathy for you, the reader.
After studying closely those who do the same, Iāve come to appreciate just one rule, the only rule that matters: there are no rules to writing.
So, why was I taught so many of them?
What made my writing wrong and othersā so right?
And why did I allow someone to grade my writing without questioning if it ever needed to be graded?
Weāre not always taught the right things, particularly the first time around, and so we need to unlearn and relearn.
Yet how many of us allow fate to provide us with a visceral, unchallenged education?
Weāre not right until weāve explored all that is wrong.
Youāve learnt a lot. But how much unlearning have you done?
Iāll leave you with a few words from Verlyn Klinkenborgās book: āSeveral short sentences about writingā. Klinkenborg is a member of the editorial board of The New York Times, has published several books, and has a Ph.D in English Literature from Princeton University. The following sentences made me well up with emotion, as if Iād just discovered a great injustice carried out against my younger self:
āMany people assume thereās a correlation between sentence length and the sophistication or complexity of an idea or thought-even intelligence generally.There isnāt.ā āYou can say smart, interesting, complicated things using short sentences.How long is a good idea?ā āWhy short sentences?Theyāll sound strange for a while until you can hear what theyāre capable of.But they carry you back to a prose you can control, To a stage in your education when diction-your vocabulary-was under control too.Short sentences make it easier to examine the properties of the sentence.(Learn to diagram sentences. Itās easy.)They help eliminate transitions.They make ambiguity less likely and easier to detect.ā āYou know how to theorize and summarize, How to identify ideologies in the texts you read.You do very well on the reading comprehension portion of the test.But no one said a word about following a trail of common sense Through the underbrush of the sentences themselves.No one showed you the affinities at work among those thickets of ink Or explained that the whole life of the language Lies in the solidity of the sentence and cannot be extracted.ā
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